No group can be perfect in all these measures, but people who have experienced religious trauma have a hyper-sensitive alert system for anything that feels off. “Off” might include problematic theology, power dynamics, in / out requirements to be part of the group, environments of control or secrecy, and so forth.
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How to Heal From Religious Trauma
First off, let’s acknowledge that a pithy social media quote and a blog post are not going to heal anyone from their trauma. Inner work is a long and complex journey, and I would never pretend that a self-help book and an online article will get you where you need to go. But I would … Continue reading How to Heal From Religious Trauma
Beliefs creating religious trauma
Today we are going to jump into some of the specific beliefs that may cause or contribute to religious trauma. The context I am most familiar with is American Christianity, in particular, the very wide net of evangelicalism. Thus, all of my examples are compatible with common beliefs of that system. Some evangelicals (cultural / … Continue reading Beliefs creating religious trauma
Why Religious Trauma is Actually Trauma
Introduction This month, we will be doing a 3-part series on religious trauma. First, we’ll address the question of what religious trauma is, from a psychological, trauma-informed perspective. Two weeks later, we’ll dive a little deeper into the kinds of beliefs that can cause religious trauma, specifically in the context I and many of you … Continue reading Why Religious Trauma is Actually Trauma
I’m back!
Photo by Avel Chuklanov on Unsplash Hello everybody! I know I've been awfully quiet on the blog for the last several months, but I'm ready to get back into the swing of things with some great new content planned for the rest of 2021. We'll be diving into a series on religious trauma in October … Continue reading I’m back!
“Men need respect, women need love” and other claims perpetuating cultures of abuse
Why write on this today? I thought I was going to write on a different topic today, but I felt so much energy around these issues below (*patriarchy, misogyny, cultures of abuse*) that this post happened instead. Then I began seeing it all around me - Twitter threads arguing whether women should be allowed to … Continue reading “Men need respect, women need love” and other claims perpetuating cultures of abuse
Normalize changing our minds
I think the real reason I am writing this post today is because I have been struggling to finish the last chapter of my book: a chapter entitled "Still Christian?" It's not that it's not written - it is.
Not-very-religious reflections for Easter weekend
I have some seriously conflicted feelings about this whole weekend. I know I am not alone in this, either. For many people who have deconstructed and/or lost the faith they once had, major holidays like this can bring up a LOT of complicated feelings. We used to make a big deal out of Easter and Christmastimes, and now we don't really know what to do with it.
The “freeze” fear response in religious trauma
The freeze response may occur in a religious context when people feel stuck or trapped in a harmful situation and they don't see viable options before them to get out or find safety. This could be anything from sexual, narcissistic, financial, or emotional abuse being perpetrated on church members, to simple faith deconstruction like questioning whether hell is real in a system where this is prohibited.
The “freeze” trauma response from the pandemic and politics
We have officially reached the anniversary of Covid being declared a pandemic. If, over the past year (or more) you have found yourself numb, detached, checked out, unmotivated, and in a word, frozen: then this post is for you.