When do you feel truly ready to give up your old life and break your heart wide open? While listening to an Ezra Klein podcast recently, I laughed out loud with sheer delight, feeling so seen. I mentally bookmarked his statement so I could go back and look up the transcript later to send to … Continue reading Do you want children? Definitely. When? Never.
What is the Patriarchy?
The patriarchy is a social system where men believe (consciously or not) they are entitled to control and power over women. This belief is reflected at a societal level with who is able to hold power, and who gets to live in a society that functions according to their needs...
Who Told You that You Don’t Deserve to Pursue Your Dreams?
If I have something good, something desirable, this part of me feels guilty that I am “allowed” to have that; that I might be so spoiled as to have such a lovely thing. It comes up with constant reasons why I shouldn’t pursue such things.
Creating Communities that Don’t Cause Religious Trauma
No group can be perfect in all these measures, but people who have experienced religious trauma have a hyper-sensitive alert system for anything that feels off. “Off” might include problematic theology, power dynamics, in / out requirements to be part of the group, environments of control or secrecy, and so forth.
How to Heal From Religious Trauma
First off, let’s acknowledge that a pithy social media quote and a blog post are not going to heal anyone from their trauma. Inner work is a long and complex journey, and I would never pretend that a self-help book and an online article will get you where you need to go. But I would … Continue reading How to Heal From Religious Trauma
Beliefs creating religious trauma
Today we are going to jump into some of the specific beliefs that may cause or contribute to religious trauma. The context I am most familiar with is American Christianity, in particular, the very wide net of evangelicalism. Thus, all of my examples are compatible with common beliefs of that system. Some evangelicals (cultural / … Continue reading Beliefs creating religious trauma
Why Religious Trauma is Actually Trauma
Introduction This month, we will be doing a 3-part series on religious trauma. First, we’ll address the question of what religious trauma is, from a psychological, trauma-informed perspective. Two weeks later, we’ll dive a little deeper into the kinds of beliefs that can cause religious trauma, specifically in the context I and many of you … Continue reading Why Religious Trauma is Actually Trauma
Photo by Avel Chuklanov on Unsplash Hello everybody! I know I've been awfully quiet on the blog for the last several months, but I'm ready to get back into the swing of things with some great new content planned for the rest of 2021. We'll be diving into a series on religious trauma in October … Continue reading I’m back!
What does “spiritual but not religious” really mean, anyway?
Thus, the way that I will distinguish spirituality and religion is this: Spirituality is to believe that at one's core, you can tap into a guiding force of Love and that there is a powerful life force (whatever you call it) that moves us in the direction of healing and wholeness.
Normalize changing our minds
I think the real reason I am writing this post today is because I have been struggling to finish the last chapter of my book: a chapter entitled "Still Christian?" It's not that it's not written - it is.